Hi
fellow bloggers,
I have to be honest;
I had a hard time trying to concentrate on this exercise. I found my mind wondering a lot more this
time. I’m sure it has to do with the drama
in my life this week. Also getting drunk
at the office party last night isn’t helping either. I do think if I can try it
again later it could be beneficial to me. I have a few enemies that came to
mind, but there is one that is so far from being forgiven that when I pictured
him in my mind while listening to the calming sound of the beach, I just calmly
imagined myself burring him in the sand, lol. I think that the beachy sound between prompts
was long, which gave me more time to unrelax and visually bury ex-husbands. This
is why I need to try again, because I know I can’t keep this anger and one day
I will have to dig him up, lol. I would
recommend it to others if they can completely relax and I will try it again in
the future.
I can obviously
use some “mental workouts” right now to help heal my pain so I can move on. A mental workout helps the general condition
of a person's mind, body and spirit, usually meaning to be free from illness,
injury or pain. A mental workout is just as important as a physical one. If our mind is out of shape we will suffer
from illness and pain, which in turn slows the healing process, just as in
physical exercise. We can use this process to train our minds to become free of
the pain we feel. Life happens and it is up to our mind to decide how we will
handle it and by training our mind to accept what we can’t change we can live
better lives. This is something I need to implement in my life and will try to
achieve.
I am sorry that you were not able to find this exercise beneficial. I too had a difficult time with this exercise. I just cannot seem to relax enough for these exercises to work. I think that it is a good possibility (like you mentioned) that you performed this exercise at the wrong time. I think that you should give this exercise another change at a more optimal time. Reading your post, I think that these exercises could give you a sense of relaxation and stress relief that seem beneficial right now in your life.
ReplyDeleteLike we have learned in our readings, anger, jealously, etc are just a bad use of our energy. I know it is easier said than done, but you need to figure out how to release the anger you feel for the ‘bad’ people in your life. These people will not change, but you can change on how you deal with them. I am sorry that you are going through a rough time.
I hope that you take a little time for yourself each day and let your mind relax and focus on yourself. I just decided this afternoon to fix the Zen fountain I have in my bedroom. I truly enjoyed the fountain when I used it in the past. The sound was so soothing and did create a nice relaxing sense for me. The fountain has not worked in about a year, and I decided that it was time to ‘fire’ it up again. I love this time of year because I have the windows open and there is cooler air finally coming in the evenings. Before I go back downstairs….I will lie on my bed and listen to the water from the fountain, the crickets outside, and just take five minutes to relax. It really does wonders for the mind.
Good luck to you!
Hi Nicki, I can relate with what you are saying and I really admire your honesty. You just need time to heal, grieve, be angry and feel what you feel. All your emotions are valid. There will come a time when this will all click and you will be able to benefit from the experience.
ReplyDelete“I care enough about myself to take a quiet half hour to relax. But if a half hour is more than I can manage, I can let that be all right. Whatever time I give to myself will be a step forward” (Courage to Change).
Hello Nicki,
ReplyDeleteI had a hard time with staying attentive to the exercise too! The part where we had to think of people that gave us negative emotions, was difficult since we were supposed to be relaxing. There isn't anything relaxing about thinking about people who have wronged you. It provided me a sense of relaxation and calmness that I think it was supposed to give you even with the negative feelings part. I thought this would be a great way to lower anger and stress when we encounter negative feelings. THis exercise definitely takes a quiet place to remain on task and tuned in. I have a loud house and that is hard to find on any given day.
Nicki,
ReplyDeleteLike everyone here, I too struggled initially with this exercise, but my issue was that I would become too relaxed during the silent periods and I would almost fall asleep. I am practicing it twice a day and each time I get something more out of it. I believe that this will help me to let go of some of those destructive emotions that I have. Like you I have an ex that infuriates me and I can not seem to get past it but I see what these emotions do to me, how they effect not just me but the people around me, and it wasn't until this week that I figured out how my destructive emotions towards my exhusband was effecting the emotional well being of my son. So I may not be able to completely eliminate these destructive feelings but for my and my son's wellbeing I will continue to do my "mental Workout" to help reduce these negative emotions.
Laurie.
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ReplyDeleteI first must say I have to commend you for your efforts and your honesty. The commitment that we put into our loving-kindness sessions goes outside the bounds of just the relaxation and recordings. I believe that it is incorporated in our lives and that we must be prepared for these sessions to a certain degree. What you experienced is the overwhelming problem of the weekend and it only helped to a certain degree. You must love yourself before you love and truly can give your love to others. I know the recording was not as good as the other recording, not only because of the tone in her voice in the beginning but the change of tone in her voice about half way through where she actually gave some emotion. This is when I became more relaxed and able to agree with the session. You are not alone with a a horrible weekend and the difficulties with the session. I thank you for sharing.
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